If you’re an introvert, it means you don’t have many friends. If you’re an introvert, it means you’re too shy. If you are an introvert, it means you’re egoistic because you don’t talk. (well, that is what the society believes). Just keep these arguments aside for a moment. Being an introvert is actually a good thing (I’d like to believe that). Being an introvert means you don’t have weekends engulfed with unnecessary hullabaloo. At times, not having a plan is actually a good thing.
Sometimes, hanging out with yourself is perhaps the most pleasing and satisfying thing on a fine Saturday evening. I’d give you my example: Every Day, after leaving office, I have this habit of reading a book while I’m on my way back. Most of my weekends are spent surfing the internet (rather abusing it ). I’m a big movie buff and download a lot of films. This Saturday ( October 7, 2017), I downloaded as many as four different movies and watched them one after the other, without a so-called break in between.
When I feel like hanging out, I make my way to a park which happens to be nearby in order to have a leisurely stroll. I love sitting alone, sipping a hearty cup of tea or coffee. You can be surrounded by countless unknown faces while you’re there. But, the society thinks it’s pathetic because the best thing to do in life is to socialise.
Just because is an introvert doesn’t mean he/she doesn’t communicate with people. I like indulging in constructive arguments, deep discussions, friendly chats etc. When I have a lot of time, I like having detailed chats with my best friends. I just ping them over WhatsApp or Messenger and there we are, spending hours, chatting about random things, right from the hits and misses of cricket, to the ups and downs of life etc etc. The only thing I’d like to reiterate is that I don’t like jumping unnecessarily into an argument I know nothing about. I won’t speak if I have nothing worth speaking.
The problem that exists in our society is that of solo-shaming. If you’re alone, people would perceive it as bad. Quite often, the society ends up misunderstanding introverts. Introverts are often labelled as egoists. Being an introvert is absolutely fine, and it’s not something that makes you a ‘Bigda hua’, egoistic ladka or ladki. Being an introvert simply means that I’m able to trust my own inner. It serves as a source of guidance.
Being an introvert also means that I’m able to organise my thoughts in a meticulous manner, without someone’s undue interference. I can back myself to do anything and everything. Last, but certainly not the least, I can reflect upon my mental state. Spending time alone is perhaps the best way to introspect. Introversion is often confused with shyness. Most introverts think deeply (I’m not trying to say I do that. )
As a matter of fact, introverts can be found struggling at work. If you’ve ever been on a client call you know nothing about, you’ll know what I’m talking about. Attending client calls and client meetings is quite normal these, but if you’re an introvert who likes being quiet, it can well become one of your greatest challenges.
The biggest challenge you’ll face as an introvert is accepting who you are. Once you’ve accepted yourself, it doesn’t really matter what the society thinks. You don’t owe an explanation to anybody because it’s your life, and that’s the only thing the society needs to know.